Wow! I blinked my eyes and my little 4 pound 13 ounce preemie turned 10. How did this happen so fast? These last 10 years have been amazing because of you, my little pixie. I only hope that you continue to let me snuggle in your bed each night as we say goodnight for at least another 10. In the meantime, I have a few things I think its time you know.
So, I guess you are a “pre-teen” now; but don’t get crazy, you are not an actual teen just yet, so you can save the attitude for later.
I won’t lie to you and tell you that these next few years are going to be the best. There will be hard decisions you’ll need to make, probably even harder ones than I had to at your age. You will have to “rat” on a friend some time. I need to know that if you see a friend doing something harmful to themselves or someone else, you MUST say something. These harmful things can build and you never know just how far they can go. A good friend is always someone that will protect you and I know you will do what’s right when the time comes as I hope your friends will do for you.
When that time comes, I’m always your Mom first. I want to be your friend but not when the Mommy role becomes more important. You can trust me to always try to do my best by you and sometimes you might not like what my best is. But know, no matter what, you can come to me with anything. Don’t ever worry what I might say or feel because I’ve been in your shoes before. I might immediately freak but when I can breathe for a minute, I will be there for you.
Let’s talk make up, reserve it for when you actually have a blemish on that beautiful, pale, peachy skin. Just don't ever cover that adorable sno-cone- shaped freckle constellation I am so fond of. Yes, I promise, I’ll draw it out so you can finally see it one day! Some of your friends might think make up is great already but no need to rush as you are perfect the way you are. When you do start to wear it, let me help you learn how to do it so it continues to show your inner beauty, not just your outer beauty.
Something you should be aware of in your teens is that friends can sometimes come and go. That’s not always a bad thing. Always strive to be a good friend, to talk openly when you encounter an issue, to help pick each other up when you are down. But realize that sometimes that friendship is one-sided, so I guess what I’m trying to say is that person is probably not an actual friend. You see, friendship shouldn't be so hard. You shouldn't feel you need to do something to impress your friends, or that you need specific brand name clothes to get in the right crowd, or that you need to speak badly about other girls to hang with the “in” crowd. Be friends with those that make it easy, where its just fun to be together, no matter what you do. Don’t worry about the ones you have to work hard at as chances are, they will never be impressed enough.
And about that, stick with what you love. Follow your heart and take your talents wherever you want to go but NEVER flaunt what you are good at. If you are amazing at something, don’t worry, people notice. What you can do someone might not be able to and what they can do well, you probably cannot. Enjoy what you’ve got and let it shine the way it should, naturally. Not that you ever been one, but just in case…no one likes a bragger.
Last but most certainly not least, love yourself first. Hold yourself to a high standard and only worry about impressing yourself. If you care about yourself and honor the person you are, everything else falls in to place. We’ve told you this since you could talk but I hope you never, ever forget that! The more you love yourself, the more love you can give, and then the more love you can receive.
We love you baby girl, who is now a decade old, more than you’ll ever know. So, I’ll sign off with what I say to you each and every night. I love you to the moon and back ten million gazillion trillion billion cocadillion times. Happy Decade, Baby, make the next as great as you can!
© 2015 Kristy Wexler